Toddler Tips

Ahh, toddlerhood. For many parents this stage is the most fun. Your toddler is walking and talking and may be getting into everything he or she sees. Allow for them to discover their surroundings, but more diligence is needed to ensure your toddler's safety. Watch for anything your toddler can reach that may be dangerous (lamps, dishes, cleaning products, etc.). Cabinet locks work well for preventing toddler access to potentially dangerous items.

Along with this fun stage comes tantrums. Your toddler is learning so much about the world and it is natural for he or she to push boundaries with you. Toddlers understand the word "no," and having consequences for not obeying lets them know you are serious. After a warning or two, threaten to put something of theirs in "time out" (a book, an stuffed animal, etc.). Place the item out of their reach for 30 seconds to a minute before giving it back. Afterwards, explain why you did it and that you will not tolerate that behavior. What the item is does not matter as much as the idea that they cannot have it. As toddlers get older you can give them time outs (a stool in the corner or in their room). Aim for about one minute of time out for the number of years they are (a 2 year-old in time out for 2 minutes, etc.). The key is consistency: if you warn them of a consequence be sure to follow through on it. Backing down sends the wrong message and your toddler will keep pushing the limits. Believe it or not, toddlers and preschoolers need boundaries and you will get a much better behaved and more secure child in the long run. For more help on this subject see On Becoming Toddler Wise.

Potty training should begin during the toddler phase. Some toddlers adapt readily to the new way of "going," while others take a while. Patience is key--do not get mad or create tension around this transistion. Toddlers generally want to please you and positive reinforcement (such as offering an extra book before bedtime) may work as incentive. For more help on this important topic see Potty Training 1-2-3.

You may also notice your toddler having difficulty with transitions. Something as simple as going from the house to the car may send your toddler into a tantrum. Please understand that while your toddler is understanding more and more, he or she is grappling with the adjustments of everyday life. Even though you may not think your toddler understands everything you tell him, try explaining what you are about to do ("we are going to the car in one minute"). This may help the toddler prepare for what is expected of him. For extreme tantrums take your child to a quiet place (as private as possible) and let he or she cry it out. Resist the temptation to pacify your toddler with treats or gifts as this sends the message that if he or she cries enough they will be rewarded.

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